Thank you Jennifer for your question! This was something I was thinking of adding into this article, but I felt it was already long enough! To me, poly means that you are looking to build a life with the people you are in a relationship with; although I love to include my very close friends in my life, I am not looking to build a life with them (i.e. move in together, make 5 year goals). I have love for them, but not the same love I have in my heart for James. I truly believe I have friends who are my soul mates, but James is my only true twin flame. (hope that makes sense!)