How to Find Balance in Non Monogamous Relationships
How do couples in an open relationship navigate in the vanilla world? How do you balance sexy activities with vanilla life?
Balance in the dictionary states “a condition in which different elements are equal or in the correct proportions.” When it comes to living in an open relationship, I believe that you should do whatever feels right to you. There is no “perfect” balance or way to be in the Lifestyle.
The definition of balance is something that will vary from couple to couple. If you have kids, if you are “out” as a non monogamist, if you have a conservative career…all these things that make up “you” will determine what the right balance means for you.
For example, once you start making more friends in the Lifestyle community, things like kids birthday parties or vanilla parties come up. Some people may choose to not have these worlds cross while others may welcome the overlap and the chance to hang out with both muggle (monogamous) and LS friends. Both choices are fine!
Balancing Lifestyle activities with your primary relationship is another example. What you desire for balance can be tied into your rules and boundaries. Hall passes (playing alone) may make it easier or more difficult to balance life and the swinger lifestyle. I know couples who like hall passes because it’s…
