Ethical Non Monogamy & Kink Terminology

For some of the more seasoned Lifestyler’s and Non Monogamists reading this, these terms are probably old news. But to a lot of new couples interested in exploring themselves, even talking to other couples can be intimidating when you don’t know what they are saying or asking! I compiled a list below of the more common ones I hear. Remember we were all new at this at some point — even me!

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• 420: Code word used by marijuana smokers to let other couples or singles know they are smokers.
• Bareback: Intercourse without using a condom.
• Bi-comfortable: Someone who has had some experience with someone of the same sex (light fondling, kissing, etc.) and realized that while they are comfortable with it they really prefer to play with people of the opposite sex.
• Bi-curious: Someone interested in exploring their bisexuality. Usually this person has had little to no experience exploring with someone of the same sex.
• Bi-sexual: Someone who takes pleasure in sexual play with people of both genders. i.e. ME!
• D&D Free: Drug and disease free. Some people do not label marijuana as drugs and some do. If it is a problem or health concern to you, be sure ask. You are allowed to communicate!
• Dogging: I actually did not know this one! So this is what…